Tough Day For This Mom

Today is my son’s senior prom.  He has opted not to attend.  His reason, he is not dating anyone and originally told me he wasn’t attending.  I encouraged him to go and have fun with a friend.

The girl he wanted to take could not attend due to a previous commitment; the next girls in line already had dates.  I then encouraged him to go alone.   He could dance with friends and still have fun.  He wouldn’t even consider that.

Here We Sit!

So while everyone else is getting dressed up and having pictures taken, here we sit.   He is fine with it.  Says he didn’t want to go anyway.  “Went two years and it isn’t what it is cracked up to be.”

Me on the other hand, I feel very sad.   This is his senior prom and he should be attending.   He is a social butterfly, this should be his night.  You don’t get another opportunity to attend your senior prom.

He feels I should be happy since this saved me a bunch of money.  I would be happier if he were attending.  I tried to tell him in the future when he looks in his yearbook or at pictures and he is missing he will wish he attended.  He doesn’t think I know what I am talking about.   So, time will tell.

Rebellion

Maybe it is a form of rebellion.  Proving, “I’m not going, and you can’t make me!”  I guess if this is the only rebellion I have to deal with I should be thankful.  But it still doesn’t make me happy.

After Prom Party

Last week he decided he wanted to host an “After Prom” party.  My first instinct was to say “NO!  You can’t be bothered to go to the prom, forget an after-prom party at our house.”   But then I thought about it and decided that it would still allow him to feel like part of the festivities, even though he wasn’t attending the prom.

Today he built a fire pit for a bonfire tonight, set up chairs, helped get ready for the party.  He seems to be looking forward to having his friends here.  Says, “This a much more fun and a lot less stressful.”   I would rather he went to the prom!

UPDATE:  It has been three years and he still doesn’t seem to regret not going. I still feel a little sad that he didn’t attend.  He refuses to attend some things at college as well.  Just reading this makes me sad! But he seems happy so I guess I just need to deal with it.

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